17 - Forgiveness
Release feelings of resentment. When you harbor bitter feelings towards someone else, you are the one who suffers because of it. Until you release these feelings, they will consume your thoughts and cause negative energy to flow throughout your body, adversely affecting your health and radiating unfavorable vibes to those around you. They will live "rent-free" in your mind. Do not give them this opportunity. Instead, be quick to forgive and let go of the hurt. If you are at fault, apologize and ask for forgiveness. Respond kindly to those who hurt you. You may have an intense impact on them, causing them to reassess their own bad behavior. You cannot control the other person. The only thing you can control is your response. So, choose to release the bitter feelings and low-dense negative energy that blocks your creativity and productive ability. And never seek revenge. Let your gift of forgiveness be the revenge.
Benefits of Forgiveness:
- Peace of mind. When you embrace anger and resentment, you damage your problem-solving ability and make good decisions. Your mind becomes cluttered with negative thoughts and possibly even thoughts of some form of vengeance. When you choose to forgive, you let go of the tension, anger, and bitterness, clearing your mind from negativity and allowing a peaceful flow of thoughts and goodwill. A mind at peace is open to innovative ideas and imagination.
- Your health. Anger, tension, and bitterness can cause various negative health concerns, such as anxiety, high blood pressure, heart problems, depression, and other mental and physical deficits. A mind cluttered with resentment may also cause insomnia or other sleep disturbances. This tension could even cause pain and swelling. Releasing hurtful thoughts and practicing forgiveness prevents the potential from this being the fuel for these problems. The sooner you release the hurt and extend forgiveness, the less likely your body will hold on to any negative effects from a bitter encounter. Your body, mind, and soul will benefit from releasing unpleasant and contentious feelings. And instead, they may be replaced with peaceful acceptance, relief, joy, contentment, and happiness.
- Relationships. Forgiving others, or asking for forgiveness from others, preserves relationships. Is it really worth winning an argument only to lose a friendship? People are much more important than "being right." Consider how holding a grudge will negatively impact your relationship with others. Ensure your behavior aligns with your belief system, and free yourself through forgiveness. Protect the precious treasure of a friendship.
- Your reputation. How you respond to situations will be in the spotlight as a leader. You must always respond to situations based on your values. Your affiliates are always watching you; all it takes is one bad response from you to lose their respect or trust in your leadership abilities. Whether your associates or your family, someone is always watching and learning about and from you. Be quick to forgive and set an honorable example for others to follow.
- Character. Even if you are right, sometimes asking for forgiveness builds character in yourself, showing an extreme amount of courage and strength to value peace rather than allow tension to pursue. It takes a person of great character to rise above the circumstances for the sake of tranquility. There is no need to admit you were wrong incorrectly; rather, you ask forgiveness for being a part of the negative situation. Be quick to forgive the other person, showing it’s okay to agree to have differing opinions. Creatively seek to find mutual grounds in which to continue. Do your best to preserve the relationship, reputation, and respect.
- Energy. The act of forgiveness transforms energy into high-frequency vibrations, spreading positive energy throughout your body. Releasing the hurt caused by another raises the vibes and spreads light, supportive energy, leading to more productivity and motivation to move forward and advance past the situation. Along with energy comes action. And action leads to more action.
- Positive effect on others. While you cannot control others, there is potential that your act of kindness and strength will positively affect the other person involved. You may cause goodness to swell from within and favorably impact them to pay forward kindness as well. Let your bold gesture be infectious to others. Be the light you want to see in others.
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the LORD forgave you.” Colossians 3:13
“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” Robert Muller
“Forgiveness is about empowering yourself, rather than empowering your past.” T.D. Jakes
“There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.” Josh Billings
“Forgiveness is the cornerstone of healing.” Sylvia Fraser
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